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The Muppets

Posted by Sarah on Jan 17, 2012 in Uncategorized

We took the kids to the drive in on Saturday. Bridie had been for the first time the week before but as a family we had never been to the drive in before. We went with Amanda and Geoff and their three boys. Similarly to us  their oldest child Lachlan is on the spectrum and he’s the same age as Beth. He’s going to mainstream high school next year so Amanda and I will have lots of comparisons to make as far as high schools are concerned.

We set off at 7.30pm to get to the drive in in plenty of time. When we arrived we went to the cafe for donuts then set up with our foldup chairs in front of our cars. Beth and Lachlan soon decided that the car was a much comfier option and climbed back inside. The movie we had decided to see was The Muppets and it was bloody hilarious! I never watched the show that much growing up but now want to see the series as do the kids. It was so funny. Amanda and I laughed, if it wasn’t Beth calling something out from the car it was Lachlan. You could hear Beth saying things like “I told you it was just like Sesame Street didn’t I?” Lachlan got quite heated when he thought the bad guy was going to win and came out telling Amanda how much he hated him! They were very entertaining. A bonus for Beth was that Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory (her new favourite show and character) was in it. Each morning she wakes up saying to me “Remember when we went to see the Muppets?” so she clearly loved it!

I was surprised how full the drive in was. It was filling up again when we left too so obviously the grown up entertainment was about to start. I saw two friends from kinder even though it was about 1/2 an hour drive away from home. It was good value mind you, $28 for a carload. It often costs over $50 for the five of us at the cinema and at times there are hardly any other people there.

Poor old Bridie had an accident where her arm smashed a window on Sunday. Thank God Paul was home. I don’t cope with things like that. In fact I didn’t cope so much that I fainted, vomited and had to go to bed for the rest of the day! I thought that I had gotten better with things like that since having the kids so maybe having Paul at home meant that in my mind I had permission to flake. It didn’t help matters any with Beth asking periodically if Bridie or myself was going to die, in fact it freaked poor Brides out even more!

The rest of the week has been fairly quiet. Paul has taken the kids to his sister’s place today as she lives just near the beach. I’ve been trying to make room for my soon to be new ikea shelves! It’s a stinking hot day today so I’m glad not to go out.

 
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Nothing to report

Posted by Sarah on Jan 14, 2012 in Uncategorized

We’ve had a fairly quiet school holidays so far. The week that Paul was away ended up being much more relaxed than I anticipated. We spend several days at home because the weather was so ridiculously hot, since then the weather’s been fairly crappy, not like summer at all, but I guess that’s what we get living in Melbourne. We all enjoyed the break from doing anything much and spent lots of time watching dvds, reading books and having pyjama days. We had a friend’s son Jose over one day for the day while his mum Cat worked. Jose has aspergers and is 14. Beth quite fancies him and says movie type things such as “Sweet, sweet Jose” when I mention him. He’s a lovely kid and the boys had a good time but it was very intense. They were watching cricket and Jose was yelling at the tely. Similarly when they played a game on the wii that Jose took a while to master, he would yell his disappointment and get Bill to do the hard bits. He didn’t do it in a horrible way at all but it was fairly full on. It was interesting to see my quiet boy adapt to suit this sports loving 14 year old. He loves Jose as any 10 year old boy would and was happy to do what Jose wanted. I did have to pull Jose up a couple of times when Bill was adjusting the volume on the tv or racing to their next activity but I knew Jose wasn’t being bossy to be mean and they seemed happy enough. I asked Bill a couple of times if he was ok and he said yes. I am so conscious that, as I have made friends with many people with kids on the spectrum, this in turn puts my children with their’s whether they choose this or not. As it’s more common for boys to be on the spectrum than girls it usually ends up being Bill who plays with them. Girls also tend to do their own thing. This may be a huge generalization but in our case Beth is happy in her own pursuits. Boys tend to play in packs, even if it’s side by side on a computer game. Anyway, Bill does love the friends that he’s made and it’s certainly made for a lovely natured boy, always happy to play with the kids a little different, almost always tolerant and generally an all round good kid. At least if I’m aware if it gets too much, and if he’s happy, then all is well.

We went for a play to Bec’s house in that week too, always fun as all the kids play so nicely. Beth watches her videos, Bill runs along with Will (and sometimes after him) and Bridie and Kasey put on huge productions for Bec and I! Angus (Bec’s toddler) joins in with everything and Bec and I sit and chat, for hours at a time. Bree turned up in the afternoon, bringing Aullin to play with the girls. We were just missing Liz from our motley crew of four but we are planning a catch up again this week.

Paul came home last Sunday morning. I was surprised how well we coped without him. I think that when you’re not expecting somebody home at night your mind set is different, you can’t afford to get stressed and think “Where is he?” so you cope because you have to. Sunday was awash as Paul caught a flight at 11pm on Saturday, flying to Melbourne and losing three hours, he got no sleep so spent Sunday grumpy and falling asleep everywhere. Needless to say I was not sympathetic! The kids were happy to see him. I think Beth found it confusing for Paul to be away with her stating when he called “Dad, you’re alive!” I don’t know what she was really thinking, surely she wasn’t really thinking the worst? I’m not sure if we should be worried that she really thought that Paul was dead, or be worried that she really didn’t seem that worried about it! Bridie made a huge sign for him that said We missed you. She also made him a card that she made the other kids write on. Out of all the kids Bridie is by far my most difficult and also my most lovable. She loves to pamper us and really just wants to have our full attention.

We had another playdate with Cat and Jose this week and organised for our family to go with theirs to Inverloch for a few days the week after next. I had a road trip to IKEA with my mother in law Bev. I love that place! I had bought the expedit shelves that are 16 squares so wanted some boxes for them. I want some more shelves now, I’m a bit obsessed. I’ve even ordered my new phone (my contract is up) with a free xbox and kinect so that I can sell them when they come and buy another shelving unit. We can’t really afford them at this stage so I figure as I’ve sacrificed getting a smart phone for a crappier one I can get my shelves with the proceeds.

We’re going to the drive in tonight to see The Muppets. Beth has been asking when she can go to the movies with her friends from school but I think they’re away. I’ll have to send them an email. I think school ending has hit her worse than I thought as she was distressed last night telling me she was missing her friends. She knows she wont be with them this year and as she hasn’t made new friends yet it’s heartbreaking to see her feeling like this. They are her safe place as far as social interactions go, they like her for who she is and she knows they’re not going to be mean to her. I hope she makes friends soon at the new school. Still, it’s good to see that friendships are important to her, that she wants them so badly. Poor love, high school’s horrible enough without the added anxieties that our kids have.

 
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Happy New Year!

Posted by Sarah on Jan 2, 2012 in Uncategorized

Wow, another year gone! Unbelievable. I can’t believe that my big girl is starting High School this year, it’s just flown by. I’m not a big one for new year’s resolutions (I always break them) but it is nice to reflect on the year and to look forward to new beginnings. We have some huge changes this year, Beth’s schooling for one and moving house for another. We’ve been in the process of subdividing my inlaw’s block for 4 to 5 years now, finally the building work has begun. It has stalled for the Christmas/New Year period but it’s looking good so far. I’m very excited! We’ve always lived in a ‘renovators delight’ in the past. Much as I love character homes there’s a fine line between character and old and crappy. I’m looking forward to living in a real grown ups house where things don’t need fixing and everything’s new. I’m also looking for a part time job. I’m hoping for Bunnings or IKEA as I want lots from both of them so a discount would be handy! Also, they both have stores close to Emerson so I could just drop Beth off, go to work and get back in time for school pickup. I’d also like to be on my way to writing a book if I can organise myself. I have a few ideas in mind, all of them around life with my girl. I just need to make a start.

It’s going to be a huge year for Beth starting at her new school. It’ll be a battle to start with which I’m dreading. Beth’s going to find it hard to do things for herself and get independant but, difficult as it’ll be to start with it’ll be well worth it in the end. If we want Beth to be able to live in society with even a semblance of independance then this is the place she needs to be.

Christmas this year was exhausting as usual. Some of you may remember that I went into hospital last Christmas Day with pneumonia and pleuracy. Horrible as it was it was much more relaxing than the Christmas rush! This year especially was tiring. School didn’t finish until the 23rd of December. We had Bethie’s graduation on the night of the 20th and Christmas Carols at school on the 21st. We were already buggered even without Christmas. Christmas Eve we went down to Rye to my Dad and Helen’s house so we didn’t get home ’til about 10.30pm after having to slow down at every house with lights. Christmas Day we went to Paul’s family at Bon Beach and Boxing Day we went to family friends at Frankston. Individually these were all lovely days but for me (I’m a real homebody) it was just a bit too much. Add in visiting interstate relos and popping in to other friends and I was a wreck by the end! The kids did well as always. Beth got her ipad 2 which she of course loves. I’ll have to download some apps onto it to help with speech therapy which Rod (our speech therapist) is going to send me. She’s content with youtube though and checks out Disney like it’s the stock market.

This week is the opposite of last week. Paul is in Perth for the World Sailing Championships. I’ve been dreading this week ever since Paul told me he was going. Paul took the kids out over the weekend and a couple of times last week so I took the opportunity to take the Christmas tree down and sort a bit of the house out. It’s amazing how much better your mind feels when your house is somewhat clean. It’s stinking hot at the moment, three days in the high 30s and today is meant to hit 40 degrees. I’ve told the kids that we’re not going anywhere while it’s this hot so there’s nobody nagging to go somewhere or to have a play. So far so good. It’s only day two but we had a lovely day yesterday. I must admit I am letting the kids play on electronics a lot and watch dvds when they want but hey, whatever gets you through the night. Happy Mummy happy kids. I’m reading my new Stephen King book, we’ve bought the series of My Name is Earl which we all love, we have food in for a whole week, I’m prepared.

I’d just like to wish all of my readers a Happy New Year. 2012 is shaping up to be a huge one. 2011 was a funny year. For me it was full of socialising which I loved! I cemented some true friendships and found room for fantastic new ones too. I did lots of procrastinating, lots of worrying, lots of crying. More importantly, lots of laughing. I feel like this year is a whole new start and I can’t wait. Thankyou for sharing our journey with us so far, I’ve loved your support and look forward to continuing with lots of news in 2012.

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