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New skills

Posted by Sarah on Nov 22, 2013 in Uncategorized

Beth has been doing a little program at school. It’s for teenage girls only and I think it focusses on communication and socialisation a fair bit as well as teenage awareness and sexuality. I have noticed such an improvement in Beth socially that I am going to speak with our Middle School Coordinator and ask her about the program and see if it is that that has made a difference.

Three things have happened that has made me believe this. Firstly, when I drove her into the school grounds a week or so ago we turned around where all the kids line up, on the other side of a big chain fence. Beth waved hello to a boy on the other side and mouthed hello. Now usually Beth seems to be totally unaware of anybody else around her and often I have to poke her to acknowledge a person when they say hello. I just thought it was a one off but was very pleased.

Then on Monday Beth saw a boy called Farnham riding his scooter on the pathway when we left school. Beth called out “Hello Farnham” and waved then said “I saw you.” Farnham turned and said “Oh did you Beth, where was I” and she replied that he had been riding his scooter on the path. So really she was talking about that exact time but still, she had reached out and made the effort to speak and seem interested in something that somebody else was doing.

Then last night my friends son Brayden said hello to her as we were walking to the car. Brayden is a particularly friendly boy and every time I see him he says that he saw Beth that day. Beth barely even acknowledges him usually but before I could even say anything she waved to him and said goodbye! Maybe something has finally clicked in. I’m not sure what’s involved in the course but perhaps it talks about it being bad manners to ignore people? Either way I’m so pleased with Beth’s progress.

 
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November 2013

Posted by Sarah on Nov 10, 2013 in Uncategorized

Sorry again, it’s been a while since I wrote. I’ve been doing short courses to qualify for my counselling course next year. I found them challenging to say the least but enjoyable and I’ve finished them now. I haven’t got my marks for one of them but the other I got a 78% pass rate which apparently is good, I only needed 60 for each of them to qualify for my new course. I’ll let you know how I go.

Beth has been a good girl, quite enjoying school and not bitching and moaning as much as she used to. She still tried to bung on the not wanting to go to school when she can though. It was halloween a few weeks ago and it’s gotten quite big in Australia the last few years. I was feeling bad as she still just wants her friends from primary school and no new ones and really wanted to do trick or treating with them. They’ve grown up much more than her, it was a Thursday night and nobody around here really does it much. I said that we’d have a party next year with it being on a weekend. I told her she was too old for it as I didn’t think they would really like to come. Then on the actual halloween morning she woke up, crying because I was getting her up. She said it was a public holiday because it was halloween. I don’t think they even do that in America! Luckily I had an ace up my sleeve. The following Tuesday was Melbourne Cup Day which in Victoria is a public holiday. Not many kids go to school on the Monday and I had decided that they could all have a slack day off. I hadn’t told her yet though. So I pretended to think about it and said that if she was a good girl she could have the Monday off instead. She was happy with that!

On Friday Beth came out of school and one of the aides came with her. I thought she was in trouble for being rude again as the aide didn’t look very pleased. Then I saw that the aide had a puppy in her hand. Beth’s teacher had gotten a new puppy and Beth had asked if she could bring it out to show me. How cute! On the way home she kept asking me about my friend Becs dog Tyson. Bec was told that Tyson has cancer a few months ago, he’s very old but he’s not in any pain so they’ve still got him at home for the moment. Whenever I see Bec and I tell Beth she asks me how Tyson is, how much longer has he got to live, has he been put down yet? It’s really lovely to see how much she cares.

I was happy to see something else this week too. Beth’s teacher from last year – Miss L – comes out with the kids who get on the buses in the afternoon. We often walk past her on the way to the car. All this year Beth has stuck her fingers in her ears as soon as she’s seen Miss L. She did this in grade 6 too with her grade 5 teacher. It was like when they were her teacher they were ok but once they weren’t that was it. It has happened all this year until this week. When we walked past Miss L. Beth said hello to her and no fingers in ears. Wow, first time she’s gone back on something for ages!

We’ve bought a sailboat for Paul for his birthday. I’ll post a picture of Beth’s version of sailing. We were so lucky that when we took it out for a trial a large pod of dolphins swam alongside us for about 20 minutes. Beth kept asking if she could keep one as a pet, I said yes, but we’d have to keep it in the bay! After a while she got over it so went down to the cabin to do what she likes doing best.

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